Personal coaching and therapeutic conversation

The coaching connection is powerful. We connect. We explore. Feelings heal. Problems unravel. The way gets clearer. Change happens.

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Coaching for peaceful confidence and happiness

Mike’s career was stalling due to him being anxious about speaking in groups. After four sessions, Mike was speaking in groups with quiet confidence. As our programme continued, he started enjoying a more outgoing life as well.

From Steve’s case book

Some people come to coaching because of problems and ill-being which feels very present in their lives. Some come to channel their energy into their goals and projects, or to sort their lives out. Others come to deepen their spiritual or emotional grounding and drink more from the well of life.

Coaching serves. Powerfully. Practically. Emotionally. Spiritually.

Graham had been off work with stress and anxiety. We slowed right down and created a deep, peaceful thinking space. I listened while he thought and articulated. Sometimes we relaxed in a mindful silence. The process was deeply therapeutic and supported Graham in his return to work.

From Steve’s case book

Why do I need coaching?

You don’t!

Nobody needs coaching, but it can be powerful. We can get lost in our own thinking. We can fail to see ourselves clearly. There’s something about working with another person that helps us think and see clearer.

It’s also human nature that we tend go adrift. Our clarity and focus drifts away and we start to fall for our negative self-talk, excuses and bad habits. Coaching brings us back on track.

Coaches get coached too, for the very same reason.

Julie had taken on too much, became overwhelmed and got stuck. Everything looked too big and hard so her chosen project started going nowhere, for years. In our sessions, she unravelled her stuck thinking and started to see clearly how to get her project moving again. Within three months, what had been procrastinated for years was done.

From Steve’s case book

How it works

Working with me is simple. First you enquire and we do some initial work to test the water. You enrol and sign a client agreement and then you can book sessions using my on-line booking facility powered by Calendly.

We meet by phone or Zoom video and share about an hour together, although we reserve ninety minutes, just in case we need extra time to reach a natural break. There may be practices and field work for you between sessions.

My preferred way of working with you is a programme of twelve sessions, one a week except for where we need to work around holidays and other commitments. This gives us the space to let the work breathe, deepen and follow through the insights of the early sessions.

You are welcome to book single sessions on a pay-per-session basis, but I urge you to stay in the conversation long enough for our work to deepen.

Our sessions will be committed and filled with unconditional respect, confidentiality and time to pause, slow down and experience a high quality thinking space.

Executive coaching in action

My style of coaching

My coaching is different to a lot of people out there. It’s not the old fashioned, aggressive, big-go-get-it, massive-pain, massive-action style of coaching. It’s about you. It’s about revealing the love, peace, creativity and widsom at your core and letting that be your guide.

Remember, I’m not interested in success without wellness. My work is about success with wellness and that’s why I place so much emphasis on cultivating our ground of being as well as working with problems and goals.

We slow things down. We co-create a therapeutic, deeply felt thinking space. I listen, deeply. I enquire, gently. We take all the time we need. Through the space we create and the practices we undertake, we stimulate the resources you need to come up from within you.

My philosophy of coaching

Despite my corporate background, I believe the magic of coaching reaches way beyond material goals and that presence and spiritual nourishment are key to any meaningful coaching journey.

I don‘t just want you to deal with some problems and some goals. I want you to experience a ground of being that allows you to gracefully meet any problem and any goal.

This is why I put so much emphasis on ground of being in my work.

I also believe:

Our work is not about me changing you as if you are wrong. It’s not about me rescuing you as if you are a child. It’s not about me giving you my wisdom as if you lack your own. You have all the resources you need. Our work is about creating and sharing a deep thinking space for you to realise them.

How to enrol or just enquire

The first step is to contact me by phone or email. Subject to my availability, the next step is for us to schedule a free, no obligations conversation to explore what brings you to coaching and what you’d like to achieve. We’ll start the work and if we both feel good about working together, we’ll draw up a coaching agreement and schedule further sessions.

If it turns out this work is not for you, it’s easy to walk away at no cost. There’s really nothing to lose but time by trying it.

Remember, there’s no cost or obligation with an initial conversation, so even if you’re not fully sure coaching is for you yet, contact me.

What typically brings people to coaching?

There are many reasons people seek coaching, including:

Sheila had poured all her energy and money into a big dream and was ready to give up in exhaustion. The problem wasn’t a lack of vision or motivation. It was a lack of self care. We worked on self care and improved her wellness. With that, she was able to continue and fulfilled her dream not long after.

From Steve’s case book

What is coaching?

Coaching is a facilitated process in which we create a deeply felt, high quality thinking space for learning, self-discovery and change. It supports you addressing difficulties. It supports you creating and achieving goals. It supports you nurturing your ground of being.

What’s the difference between coaching and therapy?

Coaching is not therapy, but it is therapeutic. Treating psychological trauma is work in the domain of therapy. Working on problems and goals is work in the domain of coaching. Working through difficult circumstances, overcoming malaise and creating personal change can be in both.

How much do you charge?

I do have standard coaching fees but I also tailor them to your circumstances. I also reserve some sessions each month for work at reduced fees, for those who are on lower incomes. Contact me to discuss options.

Does coaching involve giving advice?

Coaching isn’t about telling you how to solve your problems. It’s not advice. That would be infantilisation, the opposite of what coaching aims to do. You are the expert on you. Coaching channels your strength, your courage, your wisdom, so you can find your and your resources to meet your challenges.

Do you coach in the evenings?

Due to people’s working schedules, that’s actually when I do most of my coaching.

Does your work involve NLP?

My work could draw on a variety of sources including practical Psychology, NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), business coaching models, mindful meditation and spiritual understandings such as The Three Principles.

What styles of coaching do you do?

I am experienced in four particular styles of coaching. I might draw on any or all of them in our work together:

Classic coaching: the classic goal and performance coaching.

Presence intelligence: Coaching with presence and connection to a deeply felt thinking space with spiritial principles to evoke wisdom and clarity.

Coaching with the Enneagram: Coaching inner growth and releasing fears and anxieties through deep inquirt and self awareness.

Coaching with NLP: Coaching with hypnotic processes to change habitual patterns of feeling and behaviour.

There is nothing more transformative that acting from love, knowing you are loved, knowing you matter and knowing you always have a choice.
(Inspired by Bill Cumming.)

If coaching interests you, even if you are not sure coaching is for you yet, send me an email for an exploratory conversation.

Stephen Woolston, Coach and NLP Trainer in Maidstone and London

“The coaching I was fortunate enough to be gifted by you was life changing. It was a revelation and the start of a new unravelling. You worked intuitively with grace and depth. Through the questions you asked and with the safety you provided, I was able to see something from my past had caused a self limiting belief that has held me back so often. This seeing was powerful and I believe has been a major influence in enabling me to stop procrastinating and step up to create and share my new website.

“I would take pleasure in recommending you to anyone who is looking to release blocks to evolving their business or personal lives. I would also highly recommend you for your easily accessible and enjoyable teachings of language uses. Your wisdom and knowledge combine to create something quite magical. Thank you!”

Emma W.

“The coaching I had with Steve was very helpful and enlightening. He helped me to prepare for an important interview and to look at some family concerns in a completely different light. He has a natural ability to work with people. He works subtlely: it often wasn’t until after the sessions that I really realised what he did. I always left the sessions feeling extremely positive and ready to tackle my challenges. I would thoroughly recommend Steve.”

Karl C, manager

“Steve, you have the ability to engage with people and build rapport very quickly. That makes me feel at home and know you want to help me. Your good listening and good questioning really gets to the core of my concerns very quickly and you always pull the most appropriate tool out of your kitbag. It feels like two friends chatting, yet I come away feeling 100% better and knowing that I have the control and power to change my life. I have no hesitation in recommending you.”

Tim W, project manager

(More testimonials here.)

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