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I coach professional people just like you to be happier, less stressed and more successful, by working with you to access your greatest capacity to live and work from a more peaceful ground of being.
What is coaching?
Coaching is a process of skilled personal facilitation to assist you in your personal journey of learning, self-discovery and change.
Some people come to coaching because of problems and issues. Some come to channel their energy into goals and projects. Some come to sort their lives out. Others come to deepen their spiritual or emotional grounding and drink more from the well of life.
All those are valid.
Our coaching will have three dimensions:
- We will work on your purpose and goals.
- We will work on the problems and issues you bring.
- We will work on your peaceful ground of being.
Coaching serves. Powerfully. Practically. Emotionally. Spiritually.
Mike was a senior manager in a large financial services company whose career was stalling due to an anxiety about speaking in groups. We worked together on his goal of speaking with ease and confidence, unpicking his fears and negative beliefs while accessing his incredible capacity for inner peace.
Mike had successive break-throughs in this goal and as our work continued, his increasing confidence and ease grew and spread out into his social and sporting life. His work was even more effective and at the same time he enjoyed a better work-life balance, more days out and less sleep lost to anxiety.
How can I assist?
I can facilitate you:
- Gaining clarity on your issues.
- Gaining clarity and focus on your purpose and goals.
- Creating a structure for dealing with things.
- Staying with the disciplines of making change happen.
- Accessing your capacity for love, peace and balance of mind and emotion.
If you would like support in any of those areas, I would love to hear from you.
When Graham first contacted me, he had been off work with stress for some time and seeking support to return to work and be effective with less stress and anxiety.
Creating a serene, solemn, deeply felt thinking space, Graham learned to slow his thinking right down and gently unravelled his fearful, insecure thoughts. Sometimes we relaxed in a mindful silence. Sometimes we explored the thinking.
Graham started to see how he would catastophize with his thinking. He began to see his thinking differently and together we designed disciplines and routines we to assist him in habitually accessing his confidence. The coaching we did together was deeply supportive to him in his return to work.
Do you need a coach?
Everybody needs a coach.
No you don’t!
I disagree with Eric Schmidt, even if he is the former executive chairman of Google. You don’t ‘need’ a coach. You won’t die without one. It isn’t air.
It can be very powerful to have a coach though, and that’s the real point.
We all get lost in our own thinking. We all fail to see ourselves clearly sometimes. We all fall for our excuses, self-doubt and bad habits. There’s something about working with another person bring us back on track and helps us think clearer, see clearer and do better.
Coaches get coached too, for the very same reason.
A Hay Group International survey a few years ago showed 25–40 percent of Fortune 500 companies use executive coaches. Why? Their coaching programmes led to measurable results that passed through to the bottom line.
I mean, what use could a fortune-making company possibly have for happier, more motivated people getting better results, right? 😉
I should add, though, it’s not that coaching gives you this. The magic is in you. It always was. Partnering with a coach simply, but powerfully, facilitates you in accessing it, channeling it and staying on track.
Sheila had a really exciting personal ambition for her talents as an entertainer. She was really committed and looking for coaching support.
At the point Sheila contacted me, she was drained. She had taken on too much and had become overwhelmed. Her project was stuck and her wellbeing was low. The problem here wasn’t any lack of vision or motivation, it was a lack of self-care.
We started with restoring the self-care. Gradually, her energy returned and as we continued further, she unravelled her stuck thinking, started to get clear how to get her project moving again and she did it. Within three months, what had been stalled for years was producing great results for her.
She has since appeared on television and written a book.
How coaching with me works
Some key points:
- My coaching sessions are 90 minutes, not 60, so we can go deeper.
- We can meet in person if that is convenient.
- Mostly, however, we connect by Zoom video.
- You can expect practices and field work between sessions.
- Our sessions will be committed and filled with unconditional respect.
Getting started is really simple:
First you enquire and we do an initial session.
If working together is a good fit and we both want to continue, there’s two ways we can go. One way is you can book some more single coaching sessions. The other is you can enrol on a 16-session programme which can be consumed either one session per week or one per fortnight, working around holidays and other commitments as necessary.
Should I choose single sessions or a programme?
Single sessions are the perfect way to go if you’re looking for assistance on a single issue or sticking point. If you’re looking to really invest in your goals and ground of being, however, I strongly recommend the programme route:
- It is cheaper per hour than single sessions.
- It means we deal with money only once.
- We get to do sustained work over time.
- It removes the temptation to end the work prematurely.
- It gives us the time and space to go further and fortify our work.
- It creates more commitment for both of us—and commitment pays off.
- It is a greater investment in yourself.
How big is your sunflower? That’s what everyone seems to care about. The thing is, tall sunflowers have deep roots. Without growing deep roots first, they’d never get very high.
My style of coaching
My coaching is different to a lot of people out there. It’s not the old fashioned, aggressive motivation style of coaching. It’s about you. It’s about revealing the love, peace, creativity and widsom at your core and letting that be your guide.
We slow things down. We co-create a therapeutic, deeply felt thinking space. I listen, deeply. I enquire. We take all the time we need. Through the space we create and the practices we undertake, we stimulate the resources you need to come up from within you.
Remember, I’m not interested in success without wellness. Success with wellness is my thing and that’s why I place so much emphasis on your ground of being and applying that to your problems and goals.
Also remember, I don’t want you to just meet today’s problems and goals. I want you cultivate such a peaceful ground of being that it transforms how you meet every problem and every goal you will ever encounter.
My philosophy of coaching
Despite my corporate background, I believe the magic of coaching reaches way beyond material success and that presence and spiritual nourishment are key to any meaningful coaching journey.
I also believe:
- You are whole as you are and there is nothing wrong with you.
- You have all the resources you need.
- You have a source of calm wisdom even if you don’t realise it.
Our work is not about me changing you as if there is something wrong with you. It’s not about me rescuing you as if you are a child. It’s not about me giving you my wisdom as if you lack your own. You have all the resources you need. Our work is about creating and sharing a deep thinking space for you to realise your gifts.
How to enrol or just enquire
The first step is to email me and we’ll take it from there.
Remember, we’ll always do some work before you agree to a coaching programme. If it turns out this work is not for you, it’s easy to walk away at no cost.
What typically brings people to coaching?
There are many reasons people seek coaching, including:
- Over thinking, insecurity, stress or anxiety.
- Bad habits that are letting you down.
- Success with greater wellness.
- Working through difficult life changes or problems.
- Needing to sort your life out.
- Wanting more peace of mind.
- Wanting more free time.
- Being bored.
- Taking better care of yourself emotionally.
- Loving yourself more and criticising yourself less.
- Want to be more present with the beauty of living in the now.
- Being more influential in your own world.
- Secret ambitions or goals.
- Wanting to improve your work and relationships.
Coaching should be fun—sometimes!
There are several different kinds of coaching session.
Some sessions are solemn, serene, sacred spaces in which we honour ourselves and our feelings. Not heavy. Not sternly serious. Just solemn and gently so.
Other sessions are about challenging our thinking, provoking change and motivating ourselves. Those sessions should be fun.
There’s something about stiff and humourless coaching which is not conducive to change. On the other hand, we learn and change much better when we’re having fun. If we’re challenging our thinking, it’s doubly effective to be able to laugh at that.
The standard fee is £225 for a single 90-minute session (£150/hour) and £3,400 for the programme of 16×90-minute sessions.
But, special offer:
I have newly available coaching appointment slots this June. To fill them, I’m offering new clients a 90-minute deep coaching session to work on an issue of your choice for just ★£50★, with substantial discounts relative to my standard fees if you enrol as a returning client:
- Your primary session just ★£50!★
- Further single sessions for £195 (£130/hour).
- The 16-session programme for £2,950.
This special offer is subject to availability of remaining appointment slots and may be withdrawn at any time.
If you have limited financial resources to pay these fees, and I have availability, we can tailor the fees to your circumstances. I’d prefer that we figure out a plan that works for both of us than let money be the reason you do not do this work.
The question is: Is your life sustainably how you want it to be?
If it isn’t, would you like support with that?
Frequently asked questions
What’s the difference between coaching and therapy?
Coaching is not therapy, but it is therapeutic. Treating psychological trauma is work in the domain of therapy. Working on problems and goals is work in the domain of coaching. Working through difficult circumstances and creating change can be in both.
What are your credentials for coaching?
My training to this point consists of over 150 days of classroom training over 32 training courses taken over 18 years, plus, what’s even more important than that: lots of experience. See more at my profile.
Does coaching involve giving advice?
Coaching isn’t me telling you how to live your life. That would be infantilisation, the opposite of what coaching aims to do. Coaching supports you being the creative, wise, peaceful influencer in your life so you don’t have to give that role to anyone else.
Coaching channels your strength, your courage, your wisdom, so you can use your own resources to meet your challenges. It’s the old adage difference between giving someone bread every day and them learning how to bake their own.
Do you coach in the evenings?
Due to people’s working schedules, evenings are actually when I do most of my coaching.
Does your work involve NLP?
My work could draw on a variety of sources which includes practical Psychology, NLP, business coaching, meditation and spiritual understandings such as The Three Principles.
What’s the difference between enroling for Coaching and enroling on The Peaceful Influencers Project?
Not necessarily much. The same beliefs underpin both and what shows up in The Peaceful Influencers Project can show up in Coaching, and vice versa.
The difference is Coaching is strictly one-to-one and the agenda is driven by the goals, problems and issues you bring. The Peaceful Influencers Project is still coaching, but with a programme and a particular outcome, and can be taken both one-to-one and as a group coaching experience.
There is nothing more transformative that acting from love, knowing you are loved, knowing you matter and knowing you always have a choice.
Inspired by Bill Cumming.
If coaching interests you, even if you are not sure coaching is for you yet, send me an email for an exploratory conversation.
The coaching I was fortunate enough to be gifted by you was life changing. It was a revelation and the start of a new unravelling. You worked intuitively with grace and depth. Through the questions you asked and with the safety you provided, I was able to see something from my past had caused a self limiting belief that has held me back so often. This seeing was powerful and I believe has been a major influence in enabling me to stop procrastinating and step up to create and share my new website.
I would take pleasure in recommending you to anyone who is looking to release blocks to evolving their business or personal lives. I would also highly recommend you for your easily accessible and enjoyable teachings of language uses. Your wisdom and knowledge combine to create something quite magical. Thank you!
The coaching I had with Steve was very helpful and enlightening. He helped me to prepare for an important interview and to look at some family concerns in a completely different light. He has a natural ability to work with people. He works subtlely: it often wasn’t until after the sessions that I really realised what he did. I always left the sessions feeling extremely positive and ready to tackle my challenges. I would thoroughly recommend Steve.
The qualities that Stephen brings to his coaching are perfectly suited. Like his presence, his work is subtle and yet strong. Intuitively, he knows where to listen, what to ask and where to guide. He has integrity, skill, experience, and, most importantly of all, he cares. Whatever you’re looking for this is a man you want in your corner. Be warned, working with Stephen could change your life.
Lisa Wood, Programme Support Director, Pause Place
Every time I have a deep conversation, they become not only a window on the human condition but also a mirror, as I haven’t yet encountered a hope, dream, fear or insecurity articulated by another that we haven’t all lived ourselves. From the comfort we are not alone, not broken, and from the connection that avails, we lighten and see new possibilities. In all the years, this is an ordinary miracle that never ceases to amaze me.